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downlo:

Good information.

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slit-my-wrists:

This picture should have more than the amount of notes it has, this shows us that not ever thing is “picture perfect” and that behind that smile and those eyes there is fear. So I beg you to please reblog this instead of a pair of shoes, someone smoking a blunt, and clothes … because this picture is literally worth 1,000 words.

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Though no one would ever think of using the term honor violence (we reserve that descriptor for brown people who live somewhere else, motivated by religious something-or-other or tribal something-or-other), one-third of women murdered every year in the United States are killed by their intimate partners. In 2005 that amounted to 1,181 women, or three women every day. To put that in perspective, the UN estimates there are 5,000 honor killings every year in the entire world. 5,000 in a world of 6 billion versus nearly 1,200 in a single country of 300 million. In other words, a woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love Feminists. (via popmuslim)

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

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Let me reiterate that for you all …

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

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I think you’ve missed a crutial point though, let me point it out:

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

A woman in America runs a greater risk of being killed by her husband or boyfriend than a woman in Pakistan.

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I’m going to go ahead and guess that more men are killed by their wives or girlfriends in the United States than in Pakistan, considering women commit quite a few domestic murders in the united states each year. 

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The point is that we think of the Middle East as a terrible place for women with oppressive laws and honor killings, when the truth is that technically it’s more dangerous to be a woman here.

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I’m not surprised bc I’ve talked to women who have lived in the middle east because of their husband’s jobs and they’ve all told they feel safer walking in whatever country they are at night than they do in the US.

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feministhistorian:

[TW: intimate partner violence]

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headphones117:

I needed this on my dash again.

I don’t care if it’s Fox News, this is win.

Let’s just all remember this.

Andy Levy has my respect. I don’t know anything else about him, he could be the biggest douche ever - but this? This is good.

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rebelle-fleur08:

OH MY GOD FANDOM! 

You do not,  I repeat do not need to be emotionally invested in Elena as a character to feel that her being manhandled, slapped and pushed off fucking cliffs is wrong! 

All you need is enough common sense to recognize that abuse…in whatever context, no matter how it is depicted is WRONG. 

Even if it is FICTIONAL

Media greatly influences social behavior. And when we as women trivialize and/or mock things like rape and physical abuse, we are doing ourselves no favors.   

"How multiculturalism is betraying women" by Johann Hari

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TW: Domestic Violence, Rape, Extreme Violence.

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Do you believe in the rights of women, or do you believe in multiculturalism? A series of verdicts in the German courts in the past month, have shown with hot, hard logic that you can’t back both. You have to choose.

The crux case centres on a woman called Nishal, a 26-year-old Moroccan immigrant to Germany with two kids and a psychotic husband. Since their wedding night, this husband beat the hell out of her. She crawled to the police covered in wounds, and they ordered the husband to stay away from her. He refused. He terrorised her with death threats. So Nishal went to the courts to request an early divorce, hoping that once they were no longer married he would leave her alone. A judge who believed in the rights of women would find it very easy to make a judgement: you’re free from this man, case dismissed.

But Judge Christa Datz-Winter followed the logic of multiculturalism instead. She said she would not grant an early divorce because - despite the police documentation of extreme violence and continued threats - there was no “unreasonable hardship” here.

Why? Because the woman, as a Muslim, should have “expected” it, the judge explained. She read out passages from the Koran to show that Muslim husbands have the “right to use corporal punishment”. Look at Sura 4, verse 34, she said to Nishal, where the Koran says he can hammer you. That’s your culture. Goodbye, and enjoy your beatings.


A Lebanese-German who strangled his daughter Ibthahale and then beat her unconscious with a bludgeon because she didn’t want to marry the man he had picked out for her was sentenced to mere probation. His “cultural background” was cited by the judge as a mitigating factor.

A Turkish-German who stabbed his wife Zeynep to death in Frankfurt was given the lowest possible sentence, because, the judge said, the murdered woman had violated his “male honour, derived from his Anatolian moral concepts”. The bitch. A Lebanese-German who raped his wife Fatima while whipping her with a belt was sentenced to probation, with the judge citing his … you get the idea.

Indeed, in the name of this warm, welcoming multiculturalism, the German courts have explicitly compared Muslim women to the brain-damaged. The highest administrative court in North Rhine-Westphalia has agreed that Muslim parents have the “right” to forbid their daughter from going on a school trip unless she was accompanied by a male family member at all times. The judges said the girl was like “a partially mentally impaired person who, because of her disability, can only travel with a companion”.

Listen to Jasvinder Sanghera, who founded the best British charity helping Asian women after her sister was beaten and beaten and then burned herself to death. She says: “It’s a betrayal of these women to be PC about this. Look at the figures. Asian women in Britain are three times more likely to commit suicide than their white friends. That’s because of all this.

As the Iranian author Azar Nafisi puts it: “I very much resent it when people - maybe with good intentions or from a progressive point of view - keep telling me, ‘It’s their culture’ … It’s like saying the culture of Massachusetts is burning witches.” She is horrified by the moves in Canada to introduce shariah courts to enforce family law for Muslims.

Yes, it would be easy to keep our heads down, go with this multicultural drift, and congratulate ourselves on our tolerance of the fanatically intolerant. But I can give you a few good reasons not to. Their names are Nishal and Ibthahale and Zeynep and Fatima, and, yes, they were women.

Some excerpts from “How multicultralism is betraying women” by Johann Hari. All emphasis mine. I found these paragraphs get the the heart of this argument. I recommend reading the full thing.  

This.

To add another perspective, I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian culture. While it’s harder to find outright justification for anti-woman violence in the Bible than it is the Koran, I’ve still encountered Christian men that have used their beliefs and worldviews to justify marital rape, child abuse, and emotional abuse of their families, and many Christian women who also believe the justifications. (If anyone’s interested in further reading, I’d suggest the blog No Longer Quivering as a good starting point). There’s a lot of Christian privilege dynamics that go into this and make it a bit different than the aforementioned situations, but I don’t have the spoons to deal with that right now :-(

But, even as someone who’s still a practicing Christian of some undefined sort (my personal beliefs line up pretty well with Unitarianism) I still don’t think that my religious freedom, or anyone else’s, should ever, ever extend to the “right” to practice my religion in a way that actively harms or infringes upon the rights of other human beings.

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