Alexis Madrigal wrote the article at the link, but it’s mainly an endorsement of a series of tweets by @TejuCole:
I don’t like this expression “First World problems.” It is false and it is condescending. Yes, Nigerians struggle with floods or infant mortality. But these same Nigerians also deal with mundane and seemingly luxurious hassles. Connectivity issues on your BlackBerry, cost of car repair, how to sync your iPad, what brand of noodles to buy: Third World problems. All the silly stuff of life doesn’t disappear just because you’re black and live in a poorer country. People in the richer nations need a more robust sense of the lives being lived in the darker nations. Here’s a First World problem: the inability to see that others are as fully complex and as keen on technology and pleasure as you are.
One event that illustrated the gap between the Africa of conjecture and the real Africa was the BlackBerry outage of a few weeks ago. Who would have thought Research In Motion’s technical issues would cause so much annoyance and inconvenience in a place like Lagos? But of course it did, because people don’t wake up with “poor African” pasted on their foreheads. They live as citizens of the modern world. None of this is to deny the existence of social stratification and elite structures here. There are lifestyles of the rich and famous, sure. But the interesting thing about modern technology is how socially mobile it is—quite literally. Everyone in Lagos has a phone.
No wonder some women are unconsciously passive aggressive when expressing anger, sadness, or frustration. For years, they have been subjected to so much gaslighting that they can no longer express themselves in a way that feels authentic to them.
They say, “I’m sorry” before giving their opinion. In an email or text message, they place a smiley face next to a serious question or concern, thereby reducing the impact of having to express their true feelings.
You know how it looks: “You’re late :D ”
These are the same women who stay in relationships they don’t belong in, who don’t follow their dreams, who withdraw from the kind of life they want to live.
I hate when people claim that women are crazy or complicated or don’t know what they want because fuck you. When a woman is vocal about her opinions, desires, feelings, you call her a bitch or crazy or hysterical. Women have been taught that the only way to communicate while maintaining their physical and emotional safety is to be indirect.
i feel like i have to filter my feelings somehow at all times. i made someone cry a few weeks ago at school. i didn’t even insult him. i was expressing a critique about his art. at art school. when the guys do it, they’re informed and ‘probably right.’ when the women do it, we’re crazy overachievers. i find myself having to say, ‘i mean, maybe it’s just me, but…’ or ‘well, this is just my opinion…’ all the time. why am i afraid to say what i really think when no one else seems to be?
“[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape] Fat women are treated as utterly undesirable in our culture [and] are often turned into a ‘bizarre’ fetish object. The result is that fat women are told to be grateful for any sexual attention they receive from anyone, whether they themselves find that person sexually appealing or not. In other words, even more than your average women, fat women are only allowed to be occasional objects of desire and are regularly denied their right to have and pursue sexual desires of their own.
That way of thinking becomes very dangerous when sexual violence is mixed in. When fat women are raped, they’re often told they should be grateful that anyone wanted them, or, alternatively, disbelieved because it doesn’t seem plausible that anyone would want them ‘enough to rape them.’ These arguments not only rely on the dangerous myth that rape is about uncontrollable sexual desire (it’s not), but also propagate the message that fat women’s bodies aren’t valuable enough to the culture for their violation to be taken seriously.”—Jaclyn Friedman, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (via khaleesi)
If you thought the power had truly shifted in The Vampire Diaries when Stefan (Paul Wesley) kidnapped Klaus (Joseph Morgan)’s family and their coffins, then you may be underestimating the show, let alone Klaus himself. Strip a man— or a vampire, or a hybrid, whatever—…
This time it’s a one-two combination with Elena’s emotions dealing with both her little brother who has lost his way a bit, as well as the male who has been most consistent in her life, Damon.
as well as the male who has been most consistent in her life, Damon.
All you have to do is play Xbox with a black avatar or a “black voice” and hear the word nigger over 50 times in a week. My room mate plays xbox360 regularly and he is very good. He plays a lot of madden and first person shooters like halo and call of duty. But why is it that, whenever he beats people, or sometimes when he is just in a party with his friends, they see his avatar and hear his voice, and feel free to call him nigger immediately. They proceed to say fucked up racial things on a regular basis. This is not a structural kind of racism, however, I just laugh when people say shit doesn’t exist when my room mate plays a video game in the comfort of his own home and still has to be called a nigger or a coon or some other really degrading racial shit.
Also, xbox360 is a wonderful place to examine masculinity and competition. Because their is a ton of gay bashing, calling people “faggots”, “pussies”, rape jokes, saying you will have sex with someone’s mom. And tons of posturing. I am amazed because my room mate just told me some guy got beat on the game and then told him what his job title was and that he drove a mercedes and then asked my room mate what he drives, what he got? I’m like… really. You got beat. It’s a video game. I’m not really making any kind of definitive post or statement here lol. I’m just saying, play video games and you can find and hear every ism their is. Many people get harassed and bullied over the airwaves in their own homes. A lot of it is racial and anti-gay bullying. It’s degrading and disgusting. And people want to ignore these things, as if they don’t happen. When all you need to do is go on the internet or on one of these systems and it rears its ugly head in a fashion you can’t get these people to speak in public (obviously not everyone has access to these things). But I believe the things people say online and on a game like that that they can say behind closed doors are their true opinions and the fake ass frontin “i’m not a bigot/racist” face they put on in public is a facade.
(Warning: Children, and some adults, foul language will be repeated.)
Not so long ago, I took phone calls for Sony PlayStation and also answered the emails that customers would send to us. Most people have no idea how often things like this occur for a lot of the online games. Not just Sony or Microsoft. And even better, not!, I would have to reset passwords or research hacked accounts. Some people thought that it’d be a funny idea to make the answer to their secret question, “Where were you born?” “in my bitch of a mother’s pussy.” Or their actual passwords would be “nigger +/- bitch.” (Or any combination of ethnic slurs with female-bashing pejoratives.)
I’ve worked hard to forget most of this, because it got to the point where I hated to read these emails or do password resets. One day, just about every account that I had to correct used epithets for non-white and non-male people. Normally, I don’t take this to heart, but it was account after account after account. I had to actually talk to these people without sounding like I wanted to slap them. Still, I don’t know what look I had on my face, but my manager (who’s caucasian) came past to look at my screen and as soon as she saw what I was looking at, she asked me if I was ok and how often I see things like this on these accounts. (She knew that this occurred, but not at the rate that it had been at that time.) I told her that we all see it quite often, but I’d been seeing it all day and can I take a 15 minute break, because I feel frustrated? (She gave me a 3 hour break! She was awesome! I went home and took a nap.)
When I came back to work, I’d found out that she had checked with everyone else in our department and found that they had seen the same things. The elders in our dept were really upset by it; none of them were Af. Am. if that matters for any of you reading this. The sad non-irony of this is that half the accounts that I worked on that day alone, were made by kids; the other half of the accounts were made by adults. I signed a confidentiality agreement, so I can’t tell you how we dealt with those accounts, but I can tell you that I had a blast “correcting” them for violations of the TOS.
Oh, yeah! ^^
Wow. That makes the inner workings of this shit sound almost even scarier.
Never forget the fact people enjoy racism and sexism. People engage in it for pleasure.
And this is why all the “oh they’re just being childish” excuses piss me right the fuck off. Kids don’t start out enjoying inflicting pain on others, they’re taught that it’s amusing & a grand joke & a dozen other justifications so that the cycle of oppression can be perpetuated. If we can teach kids not to stare, why on earth do people think they can’t learn to be decent human beings to everyone?
There are a couple of reasons for this. One: Not everyone agrees with you, or wants to see photosets about your OTP. You may love Dramione, but they may not. Be considerate and tag, so tumblr savior has a chance to work for them. Two: You’ve probably worked very hard on that photoset, and other Dramione lovers deserve the chance to see and reblog your awesome work. If you tag, that increases your visibility. And that’s a win, right?
Rule #2: Don’t tag your hate.
As a general rule, your fellow tumblr-ites don’t go into a tracked tag looking for people who don’t like Chair, or who write long essays about why their least favorite show is White Collar. You’re entitled to your opinion - it is, after all, your blog. But be smart and considerate. Write long essays about how much you hate Joss Whedon shows as much as you want, but don’t tag it.
Rule #3: Actors are not characters, characters are not actors.
An actor is not responsible for the way a character behaves. It’s their job to act out the words someone else has written. Lana Parilla isn’t a true Evil Queen, she just plays one on TV. We need to learn to separate the character from the person who plays them, and be more respectful of actors and actresses in general. It’s totally okay to expound on how much you love Gabriel Macht and his work. It’s not okay to go onto his Wikipedia page and edit it to claim he’s in a secret relationship with one of his costars.
Rule #4: Don’t steal.
This one is very simple: if it’s not yours, don’t claim that it is. Don’t repost someone else’s work, reblog. Period. And always ask for permission to do something like use a GIF in your sidebar, or a graphic as your background. Be considerate.
Rule #5: Don’t spread hate.
Here’s a pretty good rule of thumb: if you have to say it behind a gray face, you probably shouldn’t be saying it at all.
Rule #6: Accept differences.
We don’t all love the same things, and that’s what makes fandom so amazing. I don’t want everyone to agree with me. It’s boring, and I don’t learn anything. I like people who open me up to new shows and new movies and new ways of thinking. And while we’re at it, people are not idiots simply because they love Britta x Jeff instead of Annie x Jeff, or ship Wincest instead of Cas/Dean. It’s a preference, that’s all. And there should be a place for all of us to ship whatever we want. Be accepting, be respectful.
1. Obviously, the absence of a must-see mass-market movie. […]
2. Ticket prices are too high. […]
3. The theater experience. […]
4. Refreshment prices. […]
5. Competition from other forms of delivery. […]
6. Lack of choice. Box-office tracking shows that the bright spot in 2011 was the performance of indie, foreign or documentary films [this has arguably been the case since 1989 with Soderbergh’s Sex, Lies, and Videotape]. On many weekends, one or more of those titles captures first-place in per-screen average receipts. Yet most moviegoers outside large urban centers can’t find those titles in their local gigantiplex. Instead, all the shopping center compounds seem to be showing the same few overhyped disappointments. Those films open with big ad campaigns, play a couple of weeks, and disappear.
The message I get is that Americans love the movies as much as ever. It’s the theaters that are losing their charm. Proof: theaters thrive that police their audiences, show a variety of titles and emphasize value-added features. The rest of the industry can’t depend forever on blockbusters to bail it out.
Say it Roger. If #1 wasn’t so prevalent (please stop with the sequels and remakes guys!) then the rest wouldn’t be so bad.